Thursday, May 24, 2012

So let me guess, you think you want to be submissive?

This post is from JessicaCreature on Fetlife and ws so on point, i had to share it!

So you want to be submissive huh? You've decided it's time to make all your fantasies come true and you're super excited about the thought of being on your knees! Weeeehooooo here we go! This piece is for all the newbie submissives out there....

Newsflash Being submissive is about more than just being on your knees whenever you please. Oh yes, surprising as it may be there is a lot more that you will have to work on. What's that you say, "work on?" Yes bitches, WORK. Something that doesn't seem to register with newbies is the amount of time, energy, dedication, work and money I have already put into being a Dominant/Top/Sadist whatever you want to call it. To start, I have spent years of my own being submissive to learn and experience what it is to be a submissive person, to serve, to submit on a daily basis. Then I have spent hours and hours of my time learning safety precautions and techniques so that I may play with you properly without damaging you. Not to mention the money I have spent in the process getting to/from classes, or the hundreds of dollars worth of toys and instruments I've bought to work my craft. Aside from all this there is the hours of time I have spent reading and thinking about the mental aspect of BDSM to be able to try to be aware of all aspects that I may affect my submissive. And then there is the time that I have spent getting to know you, what you are interested in, scared of, turned off by. The hours of my time it takes driving to see you, explaining the lifestyle to you, preparing you, teaching you, and coming up with a plan of where I'm going to take you and what I'm going to do with you.

And you expect to come and kneel before me and think that you are good to go?

Let me be clear once again about your part in this, as I have been quite clear in what it takes to make my Dominance happen....
  1. This is not just about you- This is not just about you and all the fantasies you want to make come true. I am a real person who has invested my life in this lifestyle, and I am not here to serve you when you feel like it and be pushed aside when you don't. I AM NOT A NOVELTY.
  2. Don't waste my time- I understand that you are on a journey of expanding your sexuality and realizing what you like and don't like but that does not give you the right to waste my time. You had plenty of time to think about what you were doing before you contacted me.
  3. Learn to communicate- That's right, YOU also need to learn something. Surprise Surprise we are not mind readers, nor psychic. Sensitive yes. So yes I do sense there is something amiss with you but no I do not have any idea of what it may be unless you tell me.
  4. Be accountable- If you schedule a playdate with me and I call to check in with you the day before, THAT is the day to tell me your not feeling well and want to reschedule, not the day of play a few hours beforehand when I've already spent over an hour of my time preparing for the session. Respect MY time as I respect yours.
  5. Educate yourself- So that you have a better of idea of what you want to create. So that you keep yourself safe. So that you know that I know what I'm doing. So you have something to offer besides being on your knees. Get out into the community and take some classes that relate to being submissive, find groups for submissives, books to read. Take a cooking class or small massage course, find ways to constantly better yourself.
  6. Be prepared to do something that you don't want to do- Because I will find it. And I will make you do it to prove a point. Because you can do things that you want to do all day long while we play, but until you have done something for me that you don't want to do you have not fully submitted, you have only served yourself in the long run. * * * * *CLARIFICATION FOR #6- I should have know I should have clarified on this as I had a feeling it would be taken the wrong way. I am in NO way talking about pushing or breaking any kind of limit the sub has. What I am referring to is this- A sub usually prefers to do things within their talents and comfort zones, for example, cleaning, cooking and taking pain were one of my sub's comfort zones.......they were very easy tasks for him to do which he enjoyed. That is not to say that I didn't appreciate or enjoy these tasks that he did for me, but they came easily for him and without any internal struggle, or in turn, growth for him as a submissive. At a party I had brought him to I decided I wanted him to dress as a female to amuse my friend whose birthday it was, as she enjoys this particular thing. Now, let me tell you, he did not want to dress in this cute pink dress that I picked out for him, but he did, and putting that dress on triggered all kinds of things for him, he felt insecure, I'm sure a part of him felt a bit angry, he felt a tad humiliated maybe, but I reassured him that it made me happy, and I watched him work through all these feelings, and then release them, and as he gave up his preconceived notions about what he thought of this he surrendered to me, he did it for me because it made him happy to see me happy that he did this for me. By the end of the night he was standing proudly in his little pink outfit, a huge change from his hunched over demeanor when he first put the dress on. I was so proud of him, for I saw him let go and surrender to me, I saw him push through and work through his feelings and expand as a submissive, and this meant more to me than him cooking or cleaning ever will. This is what I mean by "doing something you don't want to do". What you need to remember, is that I HAVE YOUR BEST INTERESTS AT HAND, I do not want to damage/scar/hurt you, I want to help you grow in your submission.... I want to help you let go so that you can be free..even if for just a short while. I hope that this can help resolve some of the negative feelings that were triggered by #6.....
  7. Work through the feelings that BDSM triggers- As I warned you, BDSM can and will bring up emotional/mental triggers that may make you feel sad, angry, hurt, rejected, confused, guilty, ashamed, is your job to let yourself actually feel these feelings, give yourself the space and acceptance you need to have them, try to work through them, and communicate properly to the proper audience when vocalizing them.....there is plenty of support in the right places, and you are not the only submissive who has felt this way.
  8. Enjoy yourself- This is an organic process in which two people create a moment that exists for only a short amount of time, and will never be duplicated again...each scene is unique unto itself, and precious. Recognize exactly how much time and energy your Dominant has put into making your scene happen and respect that. Realize that your fantasies will not always happen as you expect them to.
  9. Take care of yourself- It is your job to take care of yourself. This means mentally, emotionally and physically. It is your responsibility to show up as a healthy, whole person, which means you must care for yourself. It is my job to care for you when you are with me, it is your job to care for yourself when I am not. If you do not, then you fall apart as a person, and then what good is that to either you or me? Nurture and love yourself actively on a daily basis.
  10. Be Honest- With yourself and all others. Otherwise you're just wasting everyone's time. If something doesn't work for you, refer to number 3 and COMMUNICATE. You will NOT be judged for your feelings, you will, however, be doing us both a disservice if you do not communicate. And sometimes you will have to instigate conversation and communication yourself. This is real life, get your big girl panties on.
  11. Show your appreciation- It can and will go a long way. You are not the only one who needs a little reassurance or encouragement sometimes. We like to know when we are moving in the right direction. We like to know when our time and energy is being put into the right place. We like to know that you like what we are doing....and D/s is a game that requires two players, not one, cause playing with yourself is only so fun for so long ;)
I would like to give permission to anyone who would like to re-post this as I have received some interest in that, please just give me the respect of saying where it came from. And I would also like to address the person who has accused me of stealing parts of this writing by saying that this entire "Domme rant" is written by me alone, but as I said in the beginning, I have been studying BDSM for years so I am sure a lot of the information presented here has been said many times in similar ways as it is basic BDSM and manners, so please excuse me if there are coincidental similarities but I am in no way a plagiarizer ...

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

18 days...

…until i see His face and His sparkling blue eyes that squeeze my heart.
…until the crack of His whip stings my wanting skin.
…until Our hungry mouths crash into each other passionately.
…until His fingers twist in my hair and tighten aggressively.
…until His hands are all over His kitten’s body, leaving no place unattended.
...until  i am leaning over His knees and His hand spanks kitten’s ass relentlessly.
…until i am on my knees at His feet, sucking feverishly, taunting kitten’s feeding.
…until i am zapped over and over by His use of the Violet Wand.
…until We make mad, Earth-shattering love to each other for hours.
…until the tails of His flogger fall over kitten’s needy body.
…until We are walking hand in hand into a beautiful Canadian sunset.
…until His hands grip my hips as He takes pleasure in His kitten’s ass.
…until Our wine glasses clink over a lovely fancy dinner.
…until kitten’s nipples are tortured with pleasure and pain.
…until We snuggle on the couch and watch a movie.
…until We attend the BDSM sloshes and play parties together and have scenes of Our own.
…until Our laughter fills the house with positive spirit.
…until We wake each day with a new sense of love, filling the house with romance.
…until Our lust for each other fills the house with passion.
…until the distance that has been between us is no more and Our lives begin anew.

Monday, May 14, 2012


i am in the middle of reading a trilogy ( FIFTY SHADES OF GREY by E L James) and am glued to the book - so hard to put down and i am almost done with book 1.  i highly recommend the book.  In it, the contract between the Dominant and submissive was really well written, so i thought it might be beneficial to post it here:

Made this day   _________________________________________ (“The Commencement Date”)
______________________________________________________ (“The Dominant”) 

_____________________________________________________ (“The submissive”)
1 The following are the terms of a binding contract between the Dominant and the Submissive.
2 The fundamental purpose of this contract is to allow the Submissive to explore her sensuality and her limits safely, with due respect and regard for her needs, her limits, and her well-being.
3 The Dominant and the Submissive agree and acknowledge that all that occurs under the terms of this contract will be consensual, confidential, and subject to the agreed limits and safety procedures set out in this contract. Additional limits and safety procedures may be agreed in writing.
4 The Dominant and the Submissive each warrant that they suffer from no sexual, serious, infectious, or life-threatening illnesses, including but not limited to HIV, herpes, and hepatitis. If during the Term (as defined below) or any extended term of this contract either party should be diagnosed with or become aware of any such illness, he or she undertakes to inform the other immediately and in any event prior to any form of physical contact between the parties.
5 Adherence to the above warranties, agreements, and undertakings (and any additional limits and safety procedures agreed under clause 3 above) are fundamental to this contract. Any breach shall render it void with immediate effect and each party agrees to be fully responsible to the other for the consequence of any breach.
6 Everything in this contract must be read and interpreted in the light of the fundamental purpose and the fundamental terms
7 The Dominant shall take responsibility for the well-being and the proper training, guidance, and discipline of the Submissive. He shall decide the nature of such training, guidance, and discipline and the time and place of its administration, subject to the agreed terms, limitations, and safety procedures set out in this contract or agreed additionally under clause 3 above.
8 If at any time the Dominant should fail to keep to the agreed terms, limitations, and safety procedures set out in this contract or agreed additionally under clause 3 above, the Submissive is entitled to terminate this contract forthwith and to leave the service of the Dominant without notice.
9 Subject to that proviso and to clauses 2–5 above, the Submissive is to serve and obey the Dominant in all things. Subject to the agreed terms, limitations, and safety procedures set out in this contract or agreed additionally under clause 3 above, she shall without query or hesitation offer the Dominant such pleasure as he may require and she shall accept without query or hesitation his training, guidance, and discipline in whatever form it may take. COMMENCEMENT AND TERM
10 The Dominant and Submissive enter into this contract on the Commencement Date fully aware of its nature and undertake to abide by its conditions without exception.
11 This contract shall be effective for a period of three calendar months from the Commencement Date (“the Term”). On the expiry of the Term the parties shall discuss whether this contract and the arrangements they have made under this contract are satisfactory and whether the needs of each party have been met. Either party may propose the extension of this contract subject to adjustments to its terms or to the arrangements they have made under it. In the absence of agreement to such extension this contract shall terminate and both parties shall be free to resume their lives separately.
12 The submissive will make herself available to the Dominant from Friday evenings through to Sunday afternoons each week during the Term at times to be specified by the Dominant (“the Allotted Times”). Further allocated time can be mutually agreed on an ad hoc basis.
13 The Dominant reserves the right to dismiss the Submissive from his service at any time and for any reason. The Submissive may request her release at any time, such request to be granted at the discretion of the Dominant subject only to the submissive’s rights under clauses 2–5 and 8 above.
14 The submissive will make herself available during the Allotted Times and agreed additional times at locations to be determined by the Dominant. The Dominant will ensure that all travel costs incurred by the Submissive for that purpose are met by the Dominant. SERVICE PROVISIONS
15 The following service provisions have been discussed and agreed and will be adhered to by both parties during the Term. Both parties accept that certain matters may arise that are not covered by the terms of this contract or the service provisions, or that certain matters may be renegotiated. In such circumstances, further clauses may be proposed by way of amendment. Any further clauses or amendments must be agreed, documented, and signed by both parties and shall be subject to the fundamental terms set out under clauses 2–5 above.
15.1 The Dominant shall make the submissive’s health and safety a priority at all times. The Dominant shall not at any time require, request, allow, or demand the Submissive to participate at the hands of the Dominant in the activities detailed in Appendix 2 or in any act that either party deems to be unsafe. The Dominant will not undertake or permit to be undertaken any action which could cause serious injury or any risk to the submissive’s life. The remaining subclauses of this clause 15 are to be read subject to this proviso and to the fundamental matters agreed in clauses 2–5 above.
15.2 The Dominant accepts the submissive as his, to own, control, dominate, and discipline during the Term. The Dominant may use the submissive’s body at any time during the Allotted Times or any agreed additional times in any manner he deems fit, sexually or otherwise.
15.3 The Dominant shall provide the Submissive with all necessary training and guidance in how to properly serve the Dominant.
15.4 The Dominant shall maintain a stable and safe environment in which the Submissive may perform her duties in service of the Dominant.

15.5 The Dominant may discipline the Submissive as necessary to ensure the Submissive fully appreciates her role of subservience to the Dominant and to discourage unacceptable conduct. The Dominant may flog, spank, whip, or corporally punish the Submissive as he sees fit, for purposes of discipline, for his own personal enjoyment, or for any other reason, which he is not obliged to provide.
15.6 In training and in the administration of discipline the Dominant shall ensure that no permanent marks are made upon the submissive’s body nor any injuries incurred that may require medical attention.
15.7 In training and in the administration of discipline the Dominant shall ensure that the discipline and the instruments used for the purposes of discipline are safe, shall not be used in such a way as to cause serious harm, and shall not in any way exceed the limits defined and detailed in this contract.
15.8 In case of illness or injury the Dominant shall care for the submissive, seeing to her health and safety, encouraging and, when necessary, ordering medical attention when it is judged necessary by the Dominant.
15.9 The Dominant shall maintain his own good health and seek medical attention when necessary in order to maintain a risk-free environment.
15.10 The Dominant shall not loan his Submissive to another Dominant.
15.11 The Dominant may restrain, handcuff, or bind the Submissive at any time during the Allotted Times or any agreed additional times for any reason and for extended periods of time, giving due regard to the health and safety of the Submissive.
15.12 The Dominant will ensure that all equipment used for the purposes of training and discipline shall be maintained in a clean, hygienic, and safe state at all times.
15.13 The submissive accepts the Dominant as her master, with the understanding that she is now the property of the Dominant, to be dealt with as the Dominant pleases during the Term generally but specifically during the Allotted Times and any additional agreed allotted times.
15.14 The submissive shall obey the rules (“the Rules”) set out in Appendix 1 to this agreement.
15.15 The submissive shall serve the Dominant in any way the Dominant sees fit and shall endeavor to please the Dominant at all times to the best of her ability.
15.16 The submissive shall take all measures necessary to maintain her good health and shall request or seek medical attention whenever it is needed, keeping the Dominant informed at all times of any health issues that may arise.
15.17 The submissive will ensure that she procures oral contraception and ensure that she takes it as and when prescribed to prevent any pregnancy.
15.18 The submissive shall accept without question any and all disciplinary actions deemed necessary by the Dominant and remember her status and role in regard to the Dominant at all times.
15.19 The submissive shall not touch or pleasure herself sexually without permission from the Dominant.
15.20 The submissive shall submit to any sexual activity demanded by the Dominant and shall do so without hesitation or argument.
15.21 The submissive shall accept whippings, floggings, spankings, canings, paddlings, or any other discipline the Dominant should decide to administer, without hesitation, inquiry, or complaint.
15.22 The submissive shall not look directly into the eyes of the Dominant except when specifically instructed to do so. The submissive shall keep her eyes cast down and maintain a quiet and respectful bearing in the presence of the Dominant.
15.23 The submissive shall always conduct herself in a respectful manner to the Dominant and shall address him only as Sir, Mr. Grey, or such other title as the Dominant may direct.
15.24 The submissive will not touch the Dominant without his express permission to do so.
16 The submissive shall not participate in activities or any sexual acts that either party deems to be unsafe or any activities detailed in Appendix 2.
17 The Dominant and the submissive have discussed the activities set out in Appendix 3 and recorded in writing on Appendix 3 their agreement in respect of them.
18 The Dominant and the submissive recognize that the Dominant may make demands of the submissive that cannot be met without incurring physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, or other harm at the time the demands are made to the submissive. In such circumstances related to this, the submissive may make use of a safeword (“the Safeword[s]”). Two Safewords will be invoked depending on the severity of the demands.
19 The Safeword “Yellow” will be used to bring to the attention of the Dominant that the submissive is close to her limit of endurance.
20 The Safeword “Red” will be used to bring to the attention of the Dominant that the submissive cannot tolerate any further demands. When this word is said, the Dominant’s action will cease completely with immediate effect.
21 We the undersigned have read and understood fully the provisions of this contract. We freely accept the terms of this contract and have acknowledged this by our signatures below.
The Dominant: _________________________________
The submissive: _________________________________
Obedience: The submissive will obey any instructions given by the Dominant immediately without hesitation or reservation and in an expeditious manner. The submissive will agree to any sexual activity deemed fit and pleasurable by the Dominant excepting those activities that are outlined in hard limits (Appendix 2). She will do so eagerly and without hesitation.
Sleep: The submissive will ensure she achieves a minimum of eight hours’ sleep a night when she is not with the Dominant.
Food: The submissive will eat regularly to maintain her health and well-being from a prescribed list of foods (Appendix 4). The submissive will not snack between meals, with the exception of fruit.
Clothes: During the Term the submissive will wear clothing only approved by the Dominant. The Dominant will provide a clothing budget for the submissive, which the submissive shall utilize. The Dominant shall accompany the submissive to purchase clothing on an ad hoc basis. If the Dominant so requires, the submissive shall, during the Term, wear adornments the Dominant shall require, in the presence of the Dominant and at any other time the Dominant deems fit.
Exercise: The Dominant shall provide the submissive with a personal trainer four times a week in hour-long sessions at times to be mutually agreed between the personal trainer and the submissive. The personal trainer will report to the Dominant on the submissive’s progress.
Personal Hygiene/Beauty: The submissive will keep herself clean and shaved and/or waxed at all times. The submissive will visit a beauty salon of the Dominant’s choosing at times to be decided by the Dominant and undergo whatever treatments the Dominant sees fit. All costs will be met by the Dominant.
Personal Safety: The submissive will not drink to excess, smoke, take recreational drugs, or put herself in any unnecessary danger.
Personal Qualities: The submissive will not enter into any sexual relations with anyone other than the Dominant. The submissive will conduct herself in a respectful and modest manner at all times. She must recognize that her behavior is a direct reflection on the Dominant. She shall be held accountable for any misdeeds, wrongdoings, and misbehavior committed when not in the presence of the Dominant.
Failure to comply with any of the above will result in immediate punishment, the nature of which shall be determined by the Dominant.
Hard Limits
No acts involving fire play.
No acts involving urination or defecation and the products thereof.
No acts involving needles, knives, cutting, piercing, or blood.
No acts involving gynecological medical instruments.
No acts involving children or animals.
No acts that will leave any permanent marks on the skin.
No acts involving breath control. No activity that involves the direct contact of electric current (whether alternating or direct), fire, or flames to the body.

Soft Limits
To be discussed and agreed between both parties:
Does the Submissive consent to:
• Masturbation
• Cunnilingus
• Fellatio
• Swallowing Semen
• Vaginal intercourse
• Vaginal fisting
• Anal intercourse
• Anal fisting
Does the submissive consent to the use of:
• Vibrators
• Butt plugs
• Dildos
• Other vaginal/anal toys
Does the submissive consent to:
• Bondage with rope
• Bondage with leather cuffs
• Bondage with handcuffs/shackles/manacles
• Bondage with tape
• Bondage with other
Does the submissive consent to be restrained with:
• Hands bound in front
• Ankles bound
• Elbows bound
• Hands bound behind back
• Knees bound
• Wrists bound to ankles
• Binding to fixed items, furniture, etc.
• Binding with spreaderbar
• Suspension
Does the submissive consent to be blindfolded?
Does the submissive consent to be gagged?
How much pain is the submissive willing to experience?
Where 1 is likes intensely and 5 is dislikes intensely: 1—2—3—4—5
Does the submissive consent to accept the following forms of pain/punishment/discipline:
• Spanking
• Whipping
• Biting
• Genital clamps
• Hot wax
• Paddling
• Caning
• Nipple clamps
• Ice
• Other types/methods of pain
Written by:
James, E L (2011-05-25). Fifty Shades of Grey: Book One of the Fifty Shades Trilogy (p. 175). Random House, Inc.. Kindle Edition.

Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Looks towards the future...

kitten dances around as she prepares the house for His homecoming.  she sings like a bird as she cleans and dusts and puts everything in its place.  she checks the food in the oven and smiles as she knows it’s His favorite.  She turns some Japanese meditation music on softly and inspects the house and nods with approval at how soothing it will be for Him.
Up the stairs to the washroom she goes to prepare herself for His arrival.  Carefully, she soaps her entire body, cleaning all her openings, for her openings belong to Him and are to be ready for His use at any given moment.  Rose scented shampoo and a shave of her legs makes for silky smooth softness all over.   She loves the water and how it makes her feel so pure as she rinses off.  After she towels dry, she applies the Rose water and cream all over her body and breathes in the light and sweet smell of female goodness.  Tonight, she lets her hair dry naturally, for He loves the slight curl and shine it has without too much fuss.  No make-up tonight…just freckles, her bright eyes and a smile.
Down the stairs she goes…dinner is done and the time draws near for His return to her, so she runs to the front door and to her knees she falls, right into submission position and waits.  She waits with a song in her heart and love in her eyes and anticipation of a beautiful night with Him.

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Our LDR leaves behind the LD!

Well kick my cunt and call me kitten!  The countdown for my move to Canada has begun - 1 month from now, Our LDR relationship leaves the LD behind!  Master called my father to ask him for my hand in marriage and permission to take me from my country into His to take care of me for the rest of my life...i'd say i am speechless, but this kitten rarely stops purring :)

i am literally living my dreams!  kitten is so looking forward to attending weekly BDSM sloshes, bi-monthly play parties, BDSM workshops, submissive round tables and tea parties and many more BDSM functions. 

Aside from this, We have a beautiful vanilla life filled with all the splendor that a match made in heaven can have.  While SirW and i are active in the BDSM community, We are so much more than just that.  He has told me on numerous occasions that i am first and foremost His lady.  We have tons of vanilla plans from going to the movies, romantic dinners and long walks into the sunset to travelling around the globe together.

Our journey has just begun and one day, We will be rocking in Our rocking chairs, old and grey - well, i will be roped to it, but still *wink*

So hard not to do my happy dance at the office!  Gotta a sparkle in my eyes and ChaChaCha in my heart!


Thursday, May 3, 2012


One of the many things SirW and I did during His last visit with me was go to a BDSM club (The Power Exchange).  There are many rooms for various purposes, including a couple of dungeons with St. Andrews crosses, spanking benches, etc. that We use and highly enjoy, along with others.  When others are doing a scene, they usually rope off their area and there are places to sit and view the scene.  The two dungeon spaces are not far from each other, so sometimes things can be heard from one space to another, especially if there’s yelling going on, which can occur at times with some, especially Sadists

We watched a Sadist (Top) go to work on His masochist (bottom) for a while, then went into the other room to begin a scene of Our own.  One of the things SirW did with me, is blind fold me and rope me up and lead me around the club.  This is an exercise of trust mostly, but it also made me work on focusing on His words and block out anything else I heard, but suddenly I heard the Sadist yell, “Don’t you fucking stop, don’t you fucking stop!!!”  The masochist screamed and I wasn’t sure it was pleasure or pain, but she did not call a safe word, so I knew the yelling was part of their scene, so I remained quiet and curious about what was going on.

SirW lead Us back to Our scene area, removed the blind fold and ropes and finished with the scene.  I finally had to ask Him what all the yelling was about, so He told me to go over and ask the masochist because their scene was over, so I went over and sat next to her and asked her what all the yelling was about and she pointed to the ground next to the St. Andrews cross.  I looked and saw a big wet spot and looked back to her with a puzzled expression and asked, “what’s that?”  She said she squirted because her Master kicked her in the cunt!

Kicked her in the cunt???

My mouth dropped open with shock as I tried to envision her being kicked in the cunt…I just said, “Oh wow, and that made you squirt?”  She said, “Yep, does every time!”

I went back to SirW and told Him what she said and He just laughed at me and my dumbfounded expression.  The picture I had was of a violent kicking of the cunt that would be so painful and cause purple bruising, but that’s not what took place.  SirW proceeded to show me a little of what took place and it made me laugh my ass off!  Now SirW kicks my cunt and I crack up laughing because it’s an inside joke for Us.

Cunt Kicking – who thinks up these things?!?

Sing it with me:
You’re a:  Cunt Kicker, a Clit Licker, a Nipple Flicker don’t you mess around with me! Kick me with your best shot!




There are so many things that my submissive journey has opened my mind to.  i am a pretty open-minded girl to begin with, but there are things i never thought i would like, but did when i tried them.  Never having been introduced to KINK until a few months prior to meeting SirW, i had no real experience to speak of, so as they have been introduced to me, i have gained knowledge of things i like, things i tolerate and things that are a definite NO.  Heck, when SirW had me complete a BDSM CHECKLIST i had no idea about some of those activities.  There are many activities that i would not want to participate in or even watch, but there are some that intrigued me.  Here i am, 15 months later and my views on things have greatly changed, so i think SirW is going to have me complete a new checklist soon *giggles*

Anyway, during SirW's last visit a few weeks ago, We were in my kitchen when His eyes lit up with excitement at what He saw.  When i looked at what He was looking at, i gave Him a 'What are You referring to?' look because i did not see anything out of the ordinary in my kitchen.

He told me to go to the computer and look up the word, "FIGGING" so, off to the computer i went while He stayed in the kitchen...He must have heard my gasp from the kitchen and started to giggle a little at my innocence...He came toward me with a piece of peeled GINGER ROOT and that's when my eyes widened with curiosity (mixed with a little fear).  He had such a wicked Dom grin on His face that i could not help but smile and knew i was in for a new experience.  He said, follow me to the bedroom, kitten!  To the bedroom We went *smiles* my heart was racing, but i trust Him with my life and know He would bring pleasure and pain to me, but never seriously harm me, so i was more curious than anything...

He told me to bend over so He could insert the freshly peeled ginger into my-err, i mean His-ass and said, "OK, back to cooking you go kitten!  After a few minutes, the burning started and guess what?  i loved it!  It wasn't a fiery burn, but a spicy burn and i wondered about the intensity of the burn, but SirW did not want to go too far my first time and kept checking on the burn.  He removed it and wanted to know what i thought and all i could say is, "i loved it!"

Who'd would have guessed i would like a burn in the ass?!?  Certainly not me *giggles*

SirW knows me like no one has ever known me...He knows me better than i know myself it seems *wink*

i highly recommend trying this!  Later, i told SirW that i wondered if i would like this feeling in my-err, i mean His-pussy and He said, "Be careful what you ask for kitten" *eyes widen with anticipation*

Enjoy *hugs*


Wednesday, May 2, 2012


i can no longer keep this in...

From the moment SirW and i started writing to each other 15 months ago, then to skyping, then to meeting in person, my becoming His submissive, falling in love with Him, His declaration of love for me, the love and respect His children and family have for me and i have for them, the total compatibility and match of our puzzle pieces to planning my move to Canada to be with Him permanently, this journey has been amazing!

To say the signs have all been there, that the environment has guided our union so effortlessly is an understatement.  i never believed in love at first sight, but this is as close as one can get, for from the very beginning, i fell for Him so completely that it felt like a fairly tale...and still does...

He is everything a Man should be and the type of Man every good woman deserves, then add all the side benefits that a girl secretly wishes her mate had...the things that don't matter but WOW are they wonderful.  Sometimes, He makes me blush, He makes me laugh, He excited me to no end, He keeps me perpetually wet with anticipation of being touched by Him.

But just knowing someone like Him is like knowing a heavenly being put here by a higher power.  His love is like being loved by an angel.  i will spend the rest of my days giving Him the best of me, being the best i can be in society, making Him proud of me as a person, His submissive, His woman and...soon...His wife.

While i have not had an official proposal, i just have to get this off my chest:  WE ARE GETTING MARRIED!!!

The details have not been worked out, but it's happening and We could not be happier.  We are living proof that LDR's can work out even better than relationships by two that live around the corner from each other.  SirW makes the Man of my dreams seem like a punk *giggles*

i am so grateful to be given the greatest treasure i could ever have hoped for in Him...He is the love of my life, the Dom of my dreams, my Protector, my Lover, my Best Everything - i wish this kind of bond could be experienced by everyone, for if it could happen, there would be no more war, there would be peace and serenity on Earth.

Those of Y/you that have followed my journey from the beginning have seen this love blossom to what it is now, so i really wanted to share this information with Y/you, even though it is unofficial - stay tuned for updated news on how this all turns out :)

May Y/your dreams manifest into reality as mine have,