Friday, July 27, 2012

Just Married!

Hey G/gang!

i wanted to let Y/you know that We eloped on Tuesday, July 24th, which was the 1 year anniversary of Our collaring ceremony.  It was a simple yet meaningful ceremony at City Hall, which is what We both wanted.  Then, the following day We had a marriage celebration party with all of Our friends.  We had a beautiful cake made in Our colors (Purple and Teal) with white roses all around, a red rose (me) with a Blue Thorn (Him) on top - just perfect with lemon cake and raspberry filling :)  YUMMY!

Our love and development of Our D/s relationship has really taken flight the past 1 1/2 years - i have really enjoyed blogging about a lot of it.  The blogs will evolve a little now that Our relationship is not only not long distance any more, but now that We are married as well - i look forward to telling many more stories of Our life here in this blog, so stay tuned!

Thursday, July 12, 2012


There are times when one sits back and analyzes a situation, so that correct thinking has occurred prior to talking about it, but if you wait too long to communicate it, your imagination may start playing tricks on you.  When it comes to relationships, we tend to not want to bring up an uncomfortable topic to keep things calm/status-quo, not rock the boat and allow ourselves to over analyze and sometimes suffer needlessly. 

One of the greatest aspects of my relationship with SirW is the open door communication policy.  My not knowing about the world of D/s prior to my getting together with Him has made it necessary for Him to explain a lot of things to me that would otherwise (in a vanilla setting) be questionable.  SirW greets every question or concern i have head on and calmly explains things to me without taking offense to the topic and i totally appreciate being able to approach Him with anything/everything.

This has also been applied sexually.  It may seem unromantic to direct your partner in the middle of having sex/making love and perhaps the direction would be better taken prior to or after, but in any case, i feel it's important and very beneficial to communicate to your partner how you like to be your partner how to get you off, what you like touched, the exact way to rub whatever body part does it for you.  If you are turned on by your elbow being pinched *giggles* tell them!

This is especially good in the beginning, when you and your partner are getting to know each other sexually.  Everyone is different.  What one person likes, another may not enjoy, so learn everything you can about your partner and don't be afraid to talk about experimenting.  Nothing should be taboo when it comes to sexual intimacy, no judgement should be passed - if you do not like something, speak up...your partner is not a mind reader and with some loving direction, you can both be fully satisfied if you open up and show each other how your specific body works.

I do not know if there's such a thing as over-communicating, but there are so many moments when communication is lacking.  Nurturing a great relationship takes time and energy, so it's worth all the effort it takes and allows healthy growth in return.

What ever the topic is, you will find that you will typically feel a sense of relief when you get it off your chest and find that you may have worried for nothing or that the other person was thinking the same exact thing. 

No one knows how much time they have on Earth...if you do not communicate unsaid things, you could end up living with regret, so do not hesitate, do yourself a favor and get to it! 

You may never know everything about your partner, nor should you want to...some mystery is always good, but the important things need to be communicated in a timely manner or your imagination will fuck you up! *smiles*  We are our own worst enemy when it comes to our imagination and we do it to ourselves - we torture ourselves in essence - stop it!  Communicate!

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

my happiness is His

One of the many benefits of a D/s relationship (for me) is the fact that my Dom is interested in all the aspects of my life.  If there are things i am unhappy with or feel unbalanced, He takes an active role in helping me improve these things.  In other words, my happiness is important to Him, so He makes an effort to ensure my success.  Let me give Y/you a prime example of this:

One of the things that i am not happy with, is my weight.  When i quit smoking cigarettes a few years ago, i gained about 30lbs and have lost and gained weight with various diets like a flippin' yo yo - it has been so frustrating!  i expressed my grief to SirW and asked for His guidance and help.  Yesterday morning, i woke as usual, set out His razor, shaving cream and toothbrush (in the exact order He specified), made coffee and quietly placed it on His nightstand and proceeded to massage His body and eventually ended up with His cock in my mouth (i was given the honor of deciding how to wake Him up each morning, unless He specifies the night before).  Once awake, We make Our way downstairs and read up on the news and catch up on various websites as We drink coffee (and i make His lunch, which is not something He has asked me to do).  Yesterday, however, He reached for a writing book entitled, "SirW's House book for kitten" and began to write.  i was curious, but kept my composure.  When He finished, He told me that He wrote down the days tasks.

Here's what i did yesterday:
  • Between 8am-10am: Put on my ankle and hand weights and walked briskly for one hour.
  • Between 2pm-4pm:  Without weights, walk briskly OR bike ride OR swim for one hour.
  • Twice daily:  walk the dogs for 15 minutes
  • After dinner, a bike ride or swim (with SirW) for one hour
As far as what i eat, i am in charge of that, so i am being very conscientious about eating right.

This is an ongoing task for each day this week, along with a changing daily requests, such as update my blog or read a specific book and practice my D/s positions for 15 minutes.

Doing this is not easy, but because it's a directive from my Dom, i must obey, right? 

Today, i did my hour walk with weights and look forward to the afternoon exercise as well because i know i am obeying my Dom...and in turn, the benefits will become visible after a while.

This is just one example of my Master's active Dominance.  i am so grateful to Him for the care and energy He gives me.  i am an extremely happy submissive, proud to call myself His kitten.  Outside all of this, i am a very satisfied woman, for my Man loves me the way every woman should be loved:  completely.



Thursday, July 5, 2012

Rules, Rituals & Protocols

Now that Master's mom has gone home, and the fact that His children will stay with their mom from time to time, i am able to perform some rituals that Master has requested of me.  The rituals that i already perform (even with a full house) are as follows:

Each morning, i am to lay out on the counter washroom His electric razor, shaving cream, manual razor and toothbrush in a specific order and placement.  Then, i am to quietly place a mug of coffee on His nightstand.  Then, unless He specifies the night before, it's kitten's choice as to exactly how i wake Him day, i sucked His cock awake *giggles* and another day, i scratched and tickled His whole body for 30 minutes until His alarm went off.  Tomorrow, i think i will play with His nipples and watch Him squirm a little *claps excitedly*

Before He leaves for work, i have been making Him a lunch to take with Him - He has not requested this, but it gives me joy to do so and He has not denied my doing it, so it is more of a tradition than a ritual for me.

Master will typically give me a few tasks to complete during my day, so i keep busy and i also have plenty of time to lounge around and/or nap.

When He returns home, i am to be naked and in Surrender position (If the kids are not home of course!).  This position is a lot like feline position, but i am extended out further with my head close to the floor and my arms extended out in front of me.

For bedtime, i am to bathe and prepare all of His openings for use, brush my teeth and grab the hairbrush.  Master enjoys brushing my hair each night and OH, does it feel so good!  It really relaxes me.  Then, while He brushes His teeth, i turn the bedsheets down and climb onto the bench in front of the bed and wait on my knees for Him.  Then, after He climbs into bed, i ask for permission to join Him.  He will either grant it or ask me to complete some last minute tasks.  When i make it into His bed, i can ask if i ma pleasure Him or ask how i may pleasure Him - either way, i look forward to this particular moment, as it means We are intimate with each other.  It really doesn't matter to me exactly what We do - We eventually fall asleep in each other's arms, which is blissful to say the least!

Last night was the weekly Wednesday slosh - it's a vanilla event for the local kinksters to get together and is also a time where polite protocol takes place.  All Doms/Dommes are greeted properly with 'Sir' or "Ma'm'.  i am allowed to pick three things from the menu to each and Master will make the final choice for me.  Some of the slaves that attend wait for permission to eat once the meal arrives - it makes me hesitate a little for Master to give me the 'go ahead and eat' look, even though that is not one of the protocols We have in place.

Tonight, there will be no on home, which means it's DUNGEON NIGHT!  Master has had His eyes on His various whips and will need to satisfy His itchy fingers *grins wickedly*  i am so looking forward to all the things that will take place in Our dungeon tonight!

Tomorrow is BDSM night at the local kink club, so We will have another opportunity to get Our kink on in public.  It also another chance to practice proper protocols with His fellow piers in the community.  While |Master always wants my eyes to look into His, when i meet or address other Dom's, i am to avert my eyes (i admit i have to remind myself of this, as it is something i forget to do most of the time).  Most of the Dom's, after asking permission from Master, like to hive a big hug to say hello, as well as their subs, so it feels like one big family most of the time.

As Y/you can see, Out social calendar is busy and Our home life is beautifully cohesive, which makes for one happy kitten!

kitten is still suffering with allergies...i have seen a regular Dr., as well as a Naturalpath, which is similar to a Homeopath.  None of the things prescribed or suggested have worked very well, so i am just coping with the symptoms for now.  i am hopeful that they will ease up as Fall gets closer, but after We are married (and i am insured), if the allergies are still giving me trouble, i will seek an Allergist for testing and possible shots, so i can end the suffering.  Needless to say, i am sooo looking forward to Fall and Winter.

p.s. the Ginger Root is still on the counter, staring at me every day, taunting me *cackles*

Peace and love to A/all,


Wednesday, July 4, 2012

Good Books & Anal Hooks!

1st of all, HAPPY 4th of July!

i am still having trouble getting through the 3rd installment of the 50 Shades of Grey books, but i actually want to get done with it, so i can move on to something new, so i will keep trying.

Last Saturday, Master and i went to a BDSM club (D & D).  i was excited because it would be one of the 1st opportunities We have had to play a scene and take a break from the vanilla world We have been living.  Ooooh, that sounded bad...the vanilla world We have been living has been wonderful - Master's mother came to visit on the 14th of June (the week after i arrived).  Prior to that, Master's kids have been with Us, making it almost impossible to slip into D/s mode, but all that has still been beautiful, as it has given Us a chance to solidify Our family life.  Master's daughter graduated from High School on Friday (which was the main reason for His mom's visit).  On July 28th, Master took me to Hogs Back River, got down on one knee and proposed marriage - He asked me if i would do Him the honor of becoming His wife, and of course, i said YES!!!  All in all, the past few weeks have been wonderful, all accept for the major allergies i have been experiencing.  i won't go into detail, but i will say that it has been a battle my body has been fighting and will hopefully win soon.  Last Thursday, i attended a local MAsT meeting for subs and slaves to chat in a round-table environment and it was so great!

Now then, back to this past Saturday at the club:

In a building that used to be (and will soon be again) a church (the club is moving out of this building), dozens of people gathered with various potluck dishes (i made fruit salad).  The club had the main floor and a basement floor.  The main floor was where most of the socializing happened, along with a few areas for play.  One Dom topped many subs, one after the other for most of the night and all of it was spectacular to watch!  Later on the stage, a trio of subs were roped together (asses out) to a pole and spanked and flogged for a while - quite amusing!).  Master lead me downstairs to one of the rooms (none of them had doors, so anyone could watch if they chose to).  After i stripped down to my G-string, Master proceeded to use a myriad of tools on me, including but not limited to some whips, floggers, canes, nipple clamps and rope - it was AMAZING!  He is so awesome with all that He does, both physically and mentally - i am such a lucky girl!  Then, He placed nipple clamps with bells on me and paraded me around the main floor and had a few people play with His breasts to hear the jingle *giggles*  He had me do some jumping jacks for one person and it hurt sooooo bad that i cried and had to use breathing techniques to gain control over the pain.  After a couple of hours of stimulating conversations with many different people (Doms, subs, puppys (hehe), TVs, etc.), We left for the evening - WHAT A TOTAL BLAST!!!

On Sunday (Canada Day), We were invited to an animal farm that had a great set up: 3 water quarries to swim in, tons of food and drinks, and acres of grass that has various animals, from Buffalo's and Llamas to baby Ducklings and amazing Peacocks.  Being born and raised with allergies to animals, i had never seen these things in person (only on Television), so it was quite thrilling for me - a fantastic day from beginning to end.

Yesterday, His mother's visit ended and she went back to her hometown.  Last night, when We were ready for bed, i climbed onto the bench in front of the bed and asked for permission to enter His bed.  After He granted that, i asked if He would allow me to pleasure Him, and while He granted that, He was prepared to pleasure me too...during my highly enjoyable cocking sucking, He opened His side drawer and retrieved an ANAL eyes widened as i continued to suck feverishly.  He tied my hair with rope and inserted the Anal Hook into His ass and to my hair and worked me into a tizzy!  Long story-short, We both eeeked out Our orgasms...some of His was aimed at my face and hair, which i absolutely love *giggles*

Tonight is Our weekly Wednesday BDSM slosh at the pub, a gathering of local BDSM friends in a vanilla scene and always awesome!

Friday is another BDSM club (B & B), which is held each 1st and 3rd Friday - this will be my first time here, so i am very excited about it!

Basically, Our social calendar is filled with a nice mix of both vanilla and D/s events and We are B/both loving it!  Aside from that, We are waiting for paperwork to be processed in order to get married (it should take a month or so).  After that, the paperwork to apply for Landed Immigrant status will be filed - this process could take a year (give or take a few months), so until that is complete, i will not be allowed to work.  Master and i are going to sit down and discuss my tasks and responsibilities (vanilla and D/s).

That, in a nutshell is what's happening in my life at the moment and i wouldn't trade it for the world, for being united with Master is a dream come true.  We are so well suited for each other - it's really mind-blowing!

p.s. Master picked up some Ginger Root that has been sitting on the counter, staring at me every day, waiting to be inserted into the body part of His choice and i cannot wait!!!

ciao for now,