A question was posted on Fetlife that asked for ways to maintain a D/s or M/s LDR - i thought i would repost my response here, in case it helps someone who reads my blogs:
SirW and i started as a LDR...We weren't even in the same country. We were lucky to skype nearly every night - this is where He trained me as His submissive. Aside from the training every night, He gave me instructions, tasks, rituals and assignments on a daily basis. His active Dominance kept Him on my mind and me feeling completely submissive, even thousands of miles apart. BUT...Trust is crucial. The basic pillars must be upheld in order for any LDR to work.
So, what are some of the things that i was expected to do?
Morning ritual (this varied from day to day, from sitting on my knees in front of a mirror, looking at myself and appreciating what SirW sees in me. His vision of me was amazing and i started to see it after a while - it wasn't that i had low self esteem, but what i considered to be flaws, He saw as beautiful imperfections that made me perfect for Him. Some days, He would have me read (a book of His choice, usually BDSM related). Some days, He would have me play and release before work. What ever the morning ritual was, i looked forward to it, as it made me feel closer to Him than We actually were.
Each day, i was given 3 words to be used in 3 different sentences with 3 different people (without them knowing). This was a challenge that i enjoyed. At the end of each day, i would email Him my Word Task Report (WTR). He enjoyed reading them and made Him feel closer to me and what my day entailed.
As mentioned, We skyped nearly every night. We would talk about Our day, listen to music, read a book to each other, play online scrabble (We also played World of Warcraft together) and We trained. Training was sometimes my roping myself with His instructions, nipple torture, playing with myself and practicing orgasm control. Sometimes, We would face the camera toward the kitchen, prepare a meal at the same time and then get dressed, light candles and have a romantic dinner together. We even clinked the computer screen to toast with Our wine glasses (lol).
During the day (at work), i wold get surprise text messages that would tell me to clamp or play for 10 minutes...i loved these surprises: they made my day.
We did all this for a whole 2 months before We ever met in person...by Our first meeting, We were so comfortable with each other that Our actual union was out of this world.
After 6 months, He collared me as His submissive. A year later, after skyping nightly, meeting every few months or so, i moved to Canada and on Our 1 year collaring ceremony, We got married and now live harmoniously as Dom/sub, as well as Husband and wife and are very happy :)