Sunday, November 18, 2012

Cause & Effect & D/s

There are times we ask the universe, "Why?" Why did this happen or why hasn''t this happened? The thing about Cause & Effect is that in most cases, we do not see the link from one to the other, so all the things that happen in our lives, while are the result of the past causes we've made, are effects from the past, possibly even a past life (karma chain), if you believe in reincarnation. Since there is no actual proof of what happens to us after we die, many people live there lives differently.

Some live it without guilt and fear of consequences and create negative fortune in their lives and wonder why bad things happen to them. Remember now, Causes are Words, Thoughts and Actions and we might be surprised to know all the negative things people think and do not say, but even if no one hears it, it's a cause.

Some live it by doing the right thing when ever possible, helping others, going above and beyond the norm to make an impact on the world or at least, their immediate environment, making as many good causes as possible. There will always be slip-ups, where negativity manifests its ugly head, but for the most part, people that live this way generally live a peaceful life.

Some live it by making good causes but meet obstacle after obstacle and struggle continuously...why it that? Again, the effects we see now are the result of past causes and for this reason, if someone lives their life creating value every day but are met with adversity, the causes were made in their past life.

Fortunately, we have the opportunity to create value right now, every day, thereby setting up positive effects for our future, as well as future life, if it exists.

Since there is no actual proof of a next existance after this one, we are given the choice of how we want to live. So what feels better? Doing the right thing or the wrong thing? Well, in most cases doing the wrong thing might have immediate gratification, but bad for karma. Doing the right thing might not feel so good up front, but I find that the fortune eventually catches up and beneficial effects are inevitable.

We are not forced to believe in the law of Cause and Effect, nor are we forced to believe in the law of Gravity, but hey...every time I throw and apple up into the air, it falls back down, so I do not need to believe in it, it just existgs as one of the laws of the universe. The same can be said of Cause and Effect.
So if you are one who keeps making good causes and are constantly met with obstacles and struggles, keep on keeping on, for it will catch up!

A friend once told me that when we are standing still, we do not feel the wind as much as when we are moving forward - then the wind (resistance) is felt...but it means we are moving forward, so keep going, never give up hope that your current situation will change. Just as Winter never fails to turn into Spring, your causes will manifest into effects and the fortune built will manifest too. can this be related to BDSM?

My BDSM relationship started out as a in the US, my Dom in Canada. In every relationship, you need to have trust, but when it comes to a D/s LDR, it is up to you to be honest, respectful, trustworthy and obedient. When my Dom set forth His rules for me to follow, i followed them. If i played with myself without asking, i admitted it and asked for punishment, because one of His rules is i will ask first...another is to tell Him when i need to be punished and why. Would He have known if i did not tell Him? No. That is where 'Cause and Effect' comes into play. Just because no one sees a cause - if it is made, an effect is attached to it.

Remember: words, thoughts and actions are all causes. It is very hard to have always have positive words, thoughts and actions because We are human...all We can do it try Our best to say, think and do the right thing.

Keep in mind, when you are faced with a situation where your emotions want to react negatively, you have a choice. The things others do and say is their karma...Our reaction is what will affect Our karma.


  1. Many think we have no free will. What do you think, Kitten?
    The teachings of Advaita say that what I think of as myself, the person I am, is an illusion. There is really no such thing. If there is no person, then there is no-one to make a choice. I have written about this here. and elsewhere in my blog.

    Buddhist teaching says: "Events happen; deeds are done; but there is no doer thereof".

    These teaching go against every "commonsense" notion we have. Every blog I ever read is full of accounts of this and that choice, "good" or "bad." People worry about what they are doing, are going to do, or have done. But to what end? There's apparently no need for any of that. But we still assign causes to events, and predict results from causes. We don't follow these teachings. Most people probably haven't even heard about them. But if they are true, would the world be a "better" place? Kitten?

  2. I didn't write that last part quite right - I meant, if the teachings are followed would the world be a better place?

  3. Malcolm,

    i am not one to judge or make anyone decide what is right or wrong or true. My post is my opinion and phillosophy about life. Do i feel that we have no free will, absolutely not...that is just my opinion though.

    i am not sure where You got that Buddhist statement, but i have practiced Buddhism my entire life (since i was just a baby) and i have learned that we have the power to change our destiny through our causes. The past is done, yes. But the present is a chance to make causes towards our future. i believe that everyone has the potential for greatness/enlightenment, but it doesn't just happen...we have to make it happen.

    There is no proof of what happens when we die, therefore it is harder to have faith in it unless there's actual proof. If one practices the law of cause and effect and sees the fortune build and manifest itself in the form of effects, in the beginning it seem like a coincidence. When the coincidences happen over and over again, one might start to think there is something to it...eventually faith builds. Blind faith is one thing, but faith in something you can see is another...

    Again, there is no proof that an effect is directly linked to a cause per say, so we are left to live our lives the way we live them. Some may think that our destiny is set in stone, while others may think that we have the power to change the world, starting with ourself.

    So to answer the question, yes: the world would be a better place if everyone's words, thoughts and actions were positive and good IMO. That is not how the world works, unfortunately. There is a Yin/Yang in the world. Cannot have light without dark, so to speak.

    All i can do is what i think is right. i chose to live my life based on cause and effect...if i am wrong, at least i have tried to make a difference in my life. At the end of my life, i hope to say that i really lived and did not just let life happen around me...that i took action and made a positive impact on my environment and that the world was beter for having me in it...