i stumbled across this on SBF's site listed as 'OWNERS MANUAL' and thought it was wonderful and definitely worth a re-post for those who have never read it, so THANK YOU SBF and the originator jade @ The Castlerealm (The D/s Resource Center):
Then, i went to this site and saw a bunch of other material worth reading, so i decided to post all those links too:
Finding a Dominant
D/s vs. S/M
Sub Rings and things
This material has a Copyright, so i am simply providing the link to their site - take a look, it's a wonderful site with a wealth of knowledge!